this ain't a thread for the brokenhearted.

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Okay actually it is, and I am.
Sorry all you lovely HM fans but I just needed to have gripe about men.
I dated a guy 3 years ago, fell deeply in love and it was the most intense love I had ever felt, seriously, in that time I never stopped being open and honest with him, however he could not be the same with me. I loved this guy till it hurt. And in fact I became very I'll as a result. The only thing I could do then was to cut off all contact with him. So I did. Now three years on, he contacts me!!!
He asks if we can meet for a drink. Oh god I only went and met him, I sat outside the pub arms crossed, sunglasses on hardly speaking to him and all he did was apologise to me for three hours. I left because I made some excuse about meeting a friend, but I knew that feelings had resurfaced.... He contacted me again and we met again, things got serious words were spoken, words like, love and care. He asked me to meet him today, I waited, he never came, I texted, he never replied, I called he never answered. He refuses to meet to talk about what he's doing. All day I have been frantic with worry. I'm sitting in bed right now with sore eyes from balling like a baby. I took out my sim so that he can't contact me anymore and I don't have his number so I can't contact him.
I don't get why he did what he did. But I will never trust him again. The heart pays too big a price. I know that for sure.

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Gripe away. You deserve a rant.

Sounds like he hasn't changed much. There's no way to read anyone else's mind, but I think staying away from him is a good decision for you. You must know, we have all been in a place where we maybe made a bit of a misjudgment, hoping "he'd" changed. Maybe more than once. Maybe we let ourselves do it over and over, even when we "know" that every time the girl he's with hurts his feelings or makes him feel insecure, he runs back, knowing that insecurity will be soothed, if he just uses the right words. And we betray ourselves, again and again. It's okay. You're okay.

Just do yourself a really big favor. The next time a good, honest man comes into your life, don't let this guy's bad behavior keep you from someone who may be worthy. However much you may feel your judgement has failed you, however much your heart is aching for someone not worthy of it's pain, or maybe just not right, the risk is always better to take. But for now, be good to yourself, and value yourself enough to know that happiness is always the best revenge - and then do your best to demand it of yourself.

and maybe have a glass of wine and a tub of ice cream... xoxox